Questions on Direction & Diversion

1) Why do I feel like I don’t have direction because I don't really know what I want to do?
People find their direction in life at different ages. The benefit of not knowing what you want to do now is that you can keep looking and explore the variety that’s in the world. With experience, you will start gaining awareness of the activities you prefer to be involved in.

A good starting point is also knowing what you don’t want to do. That seems to be an easier question to answer.

Be open to testing and trying. Make just one more step to discovering your interests: connect with one more person, attend one more class, get one new hobby, apply to one more opportunity, etc.

You can change your direction and adjust your course at any time. Life can be exciting in this way, too.

2) How do you deal with obstacles on your way when you are striving to achieve a passionate goal?

Skillset + Mindset = Result

If the result is that you are not achieving your goal, consider where the gap is.

Skillset

What skills would you need to develop? How can you become more competent in the field you are in? What experience is required?

Then learn. Learn by obtaining knowledge, observing others, practicing, receiving feedback, and teaching.

Mindset

Picture yourself in the future having already achieved your goal. Then look back and see what steps you’ve taken to get there. What has surprised you on the way?

Build on your previous experience. Think about the last time you achieved a passionate goal. How did you do that? What can be applied to the situation you are in today?

Use roadblocks as road bricks, failure as feedback. Obstacles could be the way forward.

Resources

Be well-equipped on your path. Look around for people in your network who can support you. While each of us is on an individual journey, we could go farther together.

3) How do I stay away from social media distraction?

Worth exploring here is, what does social media give you? What needs of yours does it meet?

• Does it serve as entertainment? If so, think of an alternative, how you can entertain yourself outside of the social media world.

• Does it connect you with others? Then consider different ways to interact with people and maintain your social life.

• Does it make you feel significant? Tap on your inner sense of worth and let go of the need for validation from others.

Finding a replacement for social media will ease your transition out of it.

4) What could I do so that I regret less?

If regret is what you want to move away from, what is it that you want to move towards? A life of freedom, serenity, fulfillment? Focus more on that.

People can only do the best they can at a given point in time. When best is not good enough, we make a mistake that teaches us a lesson. Viewing mistakes as part of our path is a way to come at peace with feelings such as regret.

Taking a wrong step is a possible source of regret, but so is not taking any action at all. There is a price tag to the default future of staying in the comfort zone. When older, many people wish they lived life to the fullest and made bolder choices.

Eventually, a recipe to avoid regret is to live in the moment. Regret only happens when we remember the past. Be present, where joy, love, and gratitude are willingly available.

5) What life purpose advice would you pass along?

Let your own light shine so it can guide others.